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The guy im not dating

And they don’t have to…until we say, “Besides me, are you seeing anyone? For your sake and the sake of honesty, this is a good thing. Another (lesser) fear these guys have is that when the word “boyfriend” is pinned to their shirts, things change, you stop having fun, fights start and everyone has to act differently. See if you align and go from there.“Defining the relationship should feel like a mutual, positive, logical next step,” my friend Bret said.

I’ve seen countless women create complete fantasies and get drawn in — often before they even meet a man. With no tonality in messages, texting back and forth creates enormous opportunities to misread and misunderstand intent.

I can’t tell you how many emails I’ve received from coaching clients with a text conversation pasted in and the question: What do you think he means (aka WTF)????

So…the bottom line on texting and dating is this: use texting sparingly, wisely and, most of all, don’t read too much into it.

Remember, real life and real love happen in person, smile to smile, touch to touch.

Sure, he wouldn’t be spending any time if he wasn’t attracted to you, but if he’s solely texting, he doesn’t think of you as a potential partner. You know what you need to know: he isn’t a good, grownup man worth your time. A text ‘relationship’ is simply like being a player in a game.

Expecting him to move on to something more serious isn’t realistic. There are so many ways to know if a man is a serious guy who is interested in getting to know you. It’s a type of false connection that sets up incredibly unrealistic assumptions and expectations.

Over the past few years it seems that almost every dating dilemma I hear from my coaching clients and girlfriends has something to do with the texting. He told her how busy he was and she felt flattered that he was keeping in touch.