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Dating no call

Because they’re Mr/Miss Good Time so they’d rather give us a great time in the moment so that they feel OK about what they do next—disappear.

The term ‘ghosting’ is relatively new but dodging confrontation and disappearing in dating isn’t.

On the night of the party, she still hadn’t heard from him. As long as you stick to that rule, you’ll be golden.

But I do know what it’s like to be the girl that is asked out by a wide variety of guys, in a wide variety of ways. He wasn’t a classically handsome man, but there was instant chemistry and I thought he was so cute. He came in the first weekend we’d opened a brand new location, and my friend Misti told me “that guy’s vibing you!

When I went to leave the store, he stopped me and gave me one of the store business cards.

It could be hours, days, weeks, or even a few months but once the ‘challenge’ of ‘getting’ us is over and so they no longer feel out of control, desire wanes. Next time we won’t be so quick to run our mouth and soap people up for the sake of avoiding discomfort in the moment or to get strokes. Rather than ignoring texts or calls in the hopes that they get the hint, reply, after all, if they’re still attempting to reach out even though we’ve tried to blankety-blank them, they’re not on the same page. Remember, when it comes to the early stages of dating, we have the right to not be attracted or to not want to pursue things but–and it is a big but–we can make things easier for ourselves by having enough self-awareness and self-discipline to not say or do things that are about instant gratification and pumping up our ego.

In this illusionary world where we tippy-tap away with strangers, possibly for quite some time before we meet face-to-face, we do also have to pose the question: Is it ghosting if we haven’t met the person? This way, we don’t over-promise, under-deliver and then excuse ourselves from ending things decently on the basis that the person is a stranger and that we’re not dating. Sure, we can avoid dating altogether but what would be the point?

A lot of the time, we can work things out for ourselves (if we were present rather than auditioning on the date).