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Dating for parents with kids

How much should you tell your kids -- or the cutie across the table?

"Perhaps a better question than when is why," says Christine Baumgartner, relationship coach at The Perfect Catch. Expecting dating to fulfill all your needs is unrealistic and might attract (or cause you to accept) people who aren't right for you.

"In my coaching practice, I suggest that single moms do the inside work to get really clear about their wants, needs, values and beliefs and get in touch with their intuition," says Kerri Zane, single-mom lifestyle expert and author of It Takes All 5: A Single Mom's Guide to Finding the Real One.

There is one main area where those with grown-up children and those with younger kids differ, and that's in their desire to have more children with their new partner.

61% of singles with children under 5 would like more kids in their new relationship.

They are perceived as independent and more experienced, and subsequently clearer about what they’re seeking in a relationship.

This puts them at a certain advantage when looking for love.'' Given the popularity of parents on the Canadian dating scene, it's little wonder that the majority choose to be upfront about the fact that they are part of the single parent dating scene (especially when dating online).

53% of single moms and dads would choose to mention the fact that have kids in their online dating profile, with 20% saving the news for the 'sending messages' stage and a further 20% for the first date.

(That said, 3% of Canadian parents would hold off on mentioning the kids until they were in a committed relationship! Salama thinks that it's best to mention the kids as early as possible: ''it is essential to indicate whether you have children when registering on a dating site: honesty from the beginning is the key to a successful and long-lasting relationship.” Dating a single mom or dad with younger children?

The survey emphasizes this, with 81% of Canadians preferring to wait until they're in a serious relationship before introducing a new partner to their kids.

However, once you do meet your new partner's children (and/or they meet yours), it's a good idea to try and get on.

"I tell clients that having some time for 'just themselves' is important," she says.